Yes, You Can Say No

5 Times I Just Don’t Feel Like Having Sex

In my last article, I revealed that as a woman it’s okay to admit that you enjoy sex, but that doesn’t mean I’m down to do the deed, or DTF if you want to get technical, all of the time. I absolute love chocolate, but that doesn’t mean I want to eat it morning, noon, and night for the rest of my life. Sure, that sounds kind of nice in theory, but it would probably lead to a serious case of zits and the shits, not to mention a serious detriment to any sort of social life.

I guess what I’m trying to say is… sex is like chocolate and sometimes I just don’t feel like having chocolate, or sex!

For you guys that have happened along this article, it is okay that she doesn’t want sex 24/7. This doesn’t make her a prude, or a sex hater, or not a sexy sexual being. Our sex drive doesn’t always have to be in full gear for us to be totally in touch with our sexuality.

Because sometimes, whether you like it or not, we just don’t fricken feel like it, okay?

I Just Don’t Feel Like Having Sex When…

1. I’ve had a long, hot, exhausting day at work and finally make it to bed. 

At this point I’m in this bed for one reason and one reason only: to get some damn sleep. Please let me. I don’t want to be awake. I don’t want to move. And I damn sure don’t want to have sex. Goodnight!

2. I wake up hungover!

Waking up with morning-after breath coupled with what feels like an entire stampede of elephants ran over my head is NOT the time to poke me with your hard-on. The answer is, and always will be in this situation, NO! Leave me alone!

Plus, if you try to make me move I may or may not vomit on you, so there’s that too.

3. I just got done working out.

I’m sweaty, sticky, and smell awful. I don’t care if you think I look “sexy as hell” when I’m all flushed and sweaty. Feeling sexy is the last thing I feel right now and if I don’t feel sexy, it just ain’t gonna happen. Now please, for both of our sakes, let me shower.

4. I’m in the middle of something. 

Whether I’m busy with work or in the middle of a book or movie, I’ve obviously dedicated this time to do whatever it is that I’m doing and it should be clear that this is what I want to be doing right now, that’s why I’m in the middle of doing it. Now shoo.

5. I just don’t feel like it.

Here’s the thing, we don’t need an excuse or explanation. Sometimes we just don’t feel like it, and that’s that. I have the right to say no and I have the right to feel okay about that without my partner trying to make me feel guilty, ashamed, or not sexy.

Remember ladies, no matter what he/she says, it’s ALWAYS your body and YOUR choice. Sex is fun, and so is downtime and sleep.

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