“Hey, Asshole!”

Made you look, didn’t I? The real question is: WHY did you look?

My friend, Rob, and I were talking about how it seems that people are simply looking for a fight. It doesn’t matter what the topic is or which side of an opinion you’re on, someone usually goes out of their way to be contrary. Rob likened it to walking into a bar full of strangers and yelling, “Hey, Asshole” really loud just to see who turned around.

“Did you call me an asshole?”

“No, but you looked so I guess you are.”

Fight’s on.

Having grown up in the bar business, I’ve seen this happen on several occasions. If someone’s looking for a fight, they come in like a villain in a Wild West saloon. They’re looking for a fight and they’ve got an itchy trigger finger.

Are You Looking For A Fight?

I was talking with a good friend of mine about how crazy the world seems, especially if you’re plugged into social media, mainstream media, and politics. Express an opinion and someone either agrees, respectfully disagrees, or vehemently disagrees and tries to kneecap the person behind an opposing view.

There is a perception that we’ve lost our sense of decency and the ability for civil discourse. I would counter that with saying, we all have our good and bad days. When we have good days, most of us carry on, minding our business and being really active; but give us a bad day and we gripe, strike out, or have an inane urge to tear others down.


There’s an old proverb: “Misery loves company.”

According to a study on depressive moods, shared by Psychology Today, Psychology and Communications professor, Chris Segrin, was surprised that long-term couples weren’t likely to mirror each other’s moods. He did go on to say that there was evidence of “short-lived emotional contagion” where someone’s negative or positive mood affected another’s, but also suggests that everyone rebounds to the norm once they have time away from each other.

If I was writing an academic paper, I would delve deeper into the psychological aspect and the subconscious role of pack mentality, where someone in the group is the “emotional alpha” and kind of determines the emotional climate.

This leads me to the “emotional contagion” that Segrin mentions. Are you the type of person who yells, “Hey, Asshole!” in a room, or are you the person that turns around?

I suggest that if you said, “Yup, that’s me” to either choice, it might be time to do some self care and reflection. If you’re looking for a fight from strangers, there is likely something in your life that you’re trying to deflect from and avoid. Conversely, if you’re waiting like a spring trap for someone to say something, anything, that allows you to unleash whatever you’re holding back, then you too are not handling something that needs attention.

What is it? That’s not for me to answer.

Featured image source: Pixabay

Meredith Loughran
Meredith Loughranhttps://meredithloughran.com
Meredith Loughran is a content creator on multiple platforms, advocate for goodness, and Editor-in-Chief at WildOne Forever. She hosts The Morning Nosh on the WildOne Forever podcast and spends the rest of her day chasing down stories and interviews. She resides in Central Florida with her husband, Pat, and two rescue dogs.


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