No matter how hard you try, there is no way that everyone with whom you come into contact is going to like you. After all, do you like everybody you meet? Didn’t think so.
I am sure that there are people who don’t like me, but unlike a lot of people (maybe you?) I don’t simply assume that people are “hating on” me because they criticize something I say or do. If you are one of the people who jumps to that conclusion, have you ever considered the thought that it might be you?
I mean, “Haters gonna hate!” Right?
In other words, you’re telling yourself that people are criticizing or saying “mean things” about you that are unjustified because they are either jealous or just have a negative outlook on the world around them. The problem is that the people who yell loudest about “hate” are often the ones who deserve the criticism. I hate to say it, but if you are one of those people, the haters are all in your mind and you just suck!
Signs That Nobody is Really Hating On You
You’re not as special as you think you are
While you can enhance your appearance with the right clothing and make-up, beauty is not a special accomplishment. If you’re not a Superstar VIP, if you work at the local convenience storm, you’re not important enough to have haters following you around to criticize your every move. People just don’t care–really!
Consider this: Why would people want to cut you down to size if you’re already too tiny to see without a magnifying glass?
You’re a Social Butterfly
You appear at every publicly social event in your area. You’re friends with everybody you think matters, and you make sure that everybody knows it. No mater how many selfies you post on Instagram, you’re still not a celebrity.
“Social Butterfly” implies more than simply flitting from occasion to occasion. It also implies bright colors. No matter how many dirty looks you get, or how many
Do I really have to remind you that you are not a celebrity?
If you live in a small town, you go from one hot nightspot to the next (if there are any) or you go to the city to wait in line outside the cool clubs, praying that they will let you inside. Either way, you’re not even close to “there” yet no matter how many celebrities you can catch in the background of those selfies. You’re not even a hanger on because you’ve got nobody to hang onto.
Consider this: If you weren’t there, do you think all those people who love to hate you would even notice you were missing?
You are rich, rich, rich and you make sure we all know it
You have cool clothes, the latest automobile, and all of the latest tech. You have a great job with an astronomical salary and make sure that everybody around you knows it. If you manage to work your income statement into every conversation or the first thing you tell your friends about is your obscenely expensive iPhone 13, don’t be surprised in people aren’t as impressed as you think they should be.
You lose double points here if you have “all that” because of your parents’ money. If you didn’t earn it, should you use it to make people jealous?
Consider this: Are you the only person you hang around with that has nice things or a cool car? I didn’t think so. Besides, you could lose your job or the economy could tank (oh wait!) and then where would you be?
You impose your opinion on everybody even (especially) when it hurts
“I always tell the truth,” you say. Are you really “keeping it 100” or are you just being a nasty bitch who uses honesty as an excuse to act like an asshole by paying backhanded complements and insults to the people around you. In other words, you don’t have haters, you have people who dislike you and that is not the same thing.
You can keep it real without hurting people’s feelings. There is a word, what was it again? Oh yeah, tact. Learn it!
Consider this: All those haters you think you have? Yeah, they probably do hate you but they really are “keeping it 100” and rightfully so.
Everybody hates on you
Maybe you can’t believe everything that people tell you about yourself but if everybody is saying the same things about you, it might be time to consider that maybe they are actually telling you the truth.
What am I talking about? Consider statements like these:
You really think your shit don’t stink.
Why are you always in such a bitchy mood?
I can smell you coming from a mile away.
Consider this: If more than two or three people say the same thing about you, isn’t it time to consider that they might be right? Once you acknowledge that, the real question becomes, what are you going to do about it?
You’re the only one who sees the haters
You can’t self-diagnose the condition of being surrounded by haters. It is impossible to examine yourself and be completely neutral about it. I know I keep saying the same thing, but if you’re the only one who thinks you are surrounded by haters, you’re probably not. You have an inflated sense of yourself, of your own importance, and very likely are way past being occasionally bitchy.
Moreover, if you think you have a huge group of haters, why do you say it with such a sense of pride? I can’t think of any reason a rational person would have to describe themselves as universally disliked.
Consider this: If you have to inflate your own worth by telling us that “I’m sooo wonderful because all the other women hate on me,” and the truth is far more likely to be that everyone hates you because you suck big time.
The Bottom Line
There is a huge difference between people who “hate on” you and people who just hate you. Do yourself a favor. Take a good, long look at yourself and see if maybe the “haters” aren’t right. Then go out and do something to deserve our love and admiration. Once you’ve done that, you can stop worrying about the haters and start accomplishing something.
Then again, maybe I’m just a hater myself.
Is there someone in your life that believes they are surrounded by haters when they really suck? Tell us about it in the comments! We really want to know.
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