In the area of love and romance, it seems to get a little complicated at times. Too many expectations, lack of understanding, sometimes lack of acceptance and the fear of unfair rejections are a few of the reasons. Things get complicated when our emotions rise and add fuel to the fire.
Let’s explore a few reasons as to why we can end up confused and heartbroken.
Lack of Communication
Our lack of communication can create unresolved conflict. Healthy communication stems from a connection with your partner and trust that your thoughts will be heard. When we ignore proper communication we can create ideas in our heads that lead us the wrong way. Staying positive, limiting anger and engaging in active listening will always help. An adequate communication style is important for the longevity and quality of your relationship.
Too Many Expectations
When we have too many expectations of our partner, we can most often get let down hard. Our feelings get hurt and we can create resentments. Unrealistic expectations will, can, and most often do lead to disappointment. Too many people are obsessed with finding the perfect spouse, and as a result become increasingly frustrated when this does not pan out. We can be pushy and that is never attractive.
Fear of Rejection
The fear of rejection is a powerful fear that can sometimes become crippling. When we try and move out on courage this fear slams us in the face. Aversion to trust and not acting out on courage can affect our ability to succeed in a wide range of personal and professional situations. When it is focused on romance, it can stop us from fully becoming vulnerable with our partner, thus causing confusion and complication.
Avoiding the Truth
Married life consists of an unending series of negotiations and compromises. When we avoid the truth of certain aspects of ourselves, or even of others, we stop being flexible. The old adage, “the truth shall set you free” is definitely true in this instance. Avoiding the truth “feels” easier than facing it head on. This idea may appear to be true, but it’s actually the more difficult path. It is the path that keeps us from experiencing genuine fulfillment, joy, growth and love.
We Try and Control Too Much
Ever heard of a “control freak’? In a relationship, that is exactly what you DON’T want to be. You have to bend like a reed in the wind. Those compromises we talked about earlier definitely won’t happen if you’re controlling too much. Examples of this can be a jealous partner who looks through your phone, makes all the decisions, or tries and control the actions of others. Extreme cases of control can lead to a dangerous recipe when love is involved.
All of these reasons can be avoided if we just trust and open ourselves up to love and communication. Try relaxing and sharing some time, instead of taking up the same space. Honor, cherish, and become in-tune with your partner and take it one day at a time.